Trying to be Kind
Pandemic winter dread is real. Here’s how to conquer it. – Vox
— Read on www.vox.com/platform/amp/future-perfect/2020/10/14/21508422/winter-dread-covid-19-pandemic-happiness-psychology
Need a work-from-home pick-me-up? Research says that looking at cute puppies could improve your work performance.
— Read on www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-online-secrets/202004/the-power-cute-things-make-you-feel-better
Walktober 2019: Finding beauty wherever you go
This is a virtual meet up of bloggers. It is so touching to hear and see everyone’s walks. And the bloggers is a gifted writer.
This is my first Christmas on Hornby Island after past Christmases at Puerto Vallarta, Costa Rica, Phoenix Ottawa and Vancouver. This will be a very different Christmas. This morning the power went out for the third time since I came in June. By now I have acquired both candles and the skills to start a fire in the wood stove AND make cowboy coffee on the wood strove. The pot of hot water heated faster on the wood stove than the electrical stove. The power came on at 8 am, just in time for the co-op radio program that I had been invited to guest DJ. The station only broadcasts to the island and only half of the island can get the transmission so that’s a possible an audience of about 500 would be listening if everyone was up at that hour of the morning. All did not go well. I had a small set of Christmas music I had hoped to play for my new Hornby friends, but the technical elves were up to their old tricks. My new Iphone 7 had a different jack than the radio station and my back up plan of a USB stick could not be read by the machines. So I will be getting some training on the equipment next week. I have been invited to host a once a month classical radio show.
Following the radio follies, I took my weekly trip to the recycling center to feed the deer this week’s organic material. Lots of mandarin orange peels but they don’t seem to fancy them. I hit on another real find at the Free store.. an ottoman for me and my landlady’s cat. (see above) She (the landlady) is in Mexico.
I came home and baked a huge apple crisp for the potluck dinner at New Horizons tomorrow. I got the apples from the heritage orchard on Hornby which has been in existence for about a 100 years. The orchard has now become a community project. The apples taste better than the ones from the store.
I have to teach on-line for an hour tomorrow to a group of nine grade 7’s in Ontario. They are all English speaking but are wanting enhanced reading experience. Managing 9 kids online at the same time seemed like a bad idea to me but everyone seems to be on their best behaviour. The book we are about to read is called Replica-Lyra which is about cloning. It was their choice not mine!. Very topical. The other student I have is a grade 2 child in an international school in Shanghai which means English immersion. She is on a 3 week snowboarding trip at the moment but we are still having classes.
Tomorrow night is a house concert at a Yoga retreat on the island. I have had very good things about the musicians and have not been to the yoga retreat. Then Sunday is the life drawing session, followed by the Hornby Island Photo club. We have to bring 4 photos of Leading Lines.
Next week a new Hornby friend from Victoria is coming to stay for a few days. Although many people leave Hornby for Mexico in the winter, I haven’t made any plans to go south yet but if the power frequently goes out I might consider it. I think the Christmas period will be quieter and I hope to get back to doing some watercolours that I have been leaning by myself but started a few years ago at Emily Carr.
People often say that they have never been to busy since they retired, and I have to agree. Even here on Hornby it is common to be double booked. There are fitness classes, the bridge club, the community choir and many many volunteer opportunities that I have not yet explored. Everywhere I go I run into people I know or who know me after about 5 minutes of chatting with me. This is so much better than Vancouver or even Mexico. And walks, like everything, are within a 10 min drive of where I live.
The downside has been trying to find housing over the winter. There are some strange rules and regulations from the Islands trusts about long/short term rentals that take a lot of the housing off the market in the winter. Crazy making if you ask me. Not unlike the strata council in my condo in Vancouver that has banned rentals of less than 12 months. Thus my continued stay on Hornby!!!!. Fortunately the BC government has just released their housing task force report that recommends banning condo rental restrictions. I have been fighting with my strata council about this since May and I am glad to see the tide may be turning. So far they have fined me $ 500 for some short term rentals I did over the summer on AIRBNB. It’s a crazy world. The summer rentals here start at $ 1000 a week. The other downside is that I haven’t had much time to update my blog.
I hope to see more visitors to Hornby next year. I have two futons for guests and 2 bathrooms so lots of space. It is however a 6 hour trip from Vancouver via 3 ferries. Still, it is a pretty scenic trip and well worth it. Save it until the summer to enjoy the beaches and kayaking.
My best wishes to all for a Merry Christmas and Happy 2019. Can’t believe it will be 2019!!!
I was reflecting today on ways to contribute to the community and I think the gift of friendship is what I can give back.
Another thoughtful post from Smart Living on asking for what you want and being persistent in asking. As someone else has said, if you ask and you don’t get, you are just asking the wrong person.
Ok lets start by reading about it.
Here is a list of books recommended by another blogger Pat Doyle. You can click on the link to open the link in Amazon.com or other sites where I found the book.
Designing Your Life.by Bill Burnett & Dave Evans., 4 star. Based on the Design Thinking approach but geared more towards finding your right career. It can be reapplied to retirement life as it’s actually very similar to how I approached new life design in retirement, being a product designer myself! I also liked this book as did the Retirement Wisdom reviewers. When the book finally arrived after about a month I found I liked it the best of all the books I read. ♥♥♥♥♥
Don’t Retire, Rewire! by Jeri Sedlar and Rick Miners. ♥♥♥♥♥ A “how-to” on defining satisfaction drivers , separating skills and strengths (with examples), examples of others “accomplishments”, and a how-to guide for working through what in your work life was satisfied by your drivers and how to brainstorm possibilities. Introduces interesting concept of 4 types of work: work for a wage, work for a fee, work for free, work for me. I also liked this book. I liked the categories of what you get out of work and how you can replicate the same “hierarchy of needs” outside of the work environment. However I would add a Fun Factor to their list. Right, many people don’t have fun at work so there are some value adds to retirement that you don’t get out of work.
The Happiness Project (Revised Edition): Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun This is my personal favourite although it’s not about retirement specifically. The website has five 21 day projects that can take you over the hump while you are figuring out what you want to do with the rest of your life.♥♥♥♥♥
The Joy of Retirement by David C. Borchard. 5 star – Lots of how-to for defining who you want to be in retirement and the lifestyle that will help you be that person. Big sections on roles, talents, and values in defining your vision statement. Love the fact he does not assume where you will be on the continuum of working versus traditional leisure-based retirement. Combines easy to use tools as well as insightful examples of practical next steps. Pat says she wishes she had read it sooner in her journey. Borchard also offers his assessments on-line for $ 35 US. I think the tests are included in the books so it would be cheaper to buy the book. I tired the tests and found they were targeted at career planning more than retirement planning. According to the tests my Passion Distribution is Right Brain Creator and Left Brain Organizer which explains why I am doing a blog. I didn’t find the book or the tests as helpful as some of the books below.♥♥♥♥♥
I ran out of interest in reading about retirement after 3 books so the remaining books are as reviewed by Pat.
How to Retire Happy, Wild and Free. by Ernie J Zelinski . 5 star – An easy-to-read conversational style. Introduces the possibilities “get a life tree”; real people case studies (as opposed to all professional, CEO types), focus on “leisure” (not work) so unique in that!♥♥♥♥♥
65 Things to Do When You Retire is in fact 65 interesting essays about retirement from all kinds of people, on all kinds of topics, many very inspiring. edited by Mark Evans Chimsky. ♥♥♥♥
What Color Is Your Parachute? for Retirement, Second Edition: Planning a Prosperous, Healthy, and Happy Future. Some stuff on finances, but lots on health and happiness. Great background on core values, theory and application of happiness (positive psychology), and practical how-to especially on self reflection and life portfolio. ♥♥♥♥
Now What? Know who you are , Get what you want. By Laura Berman Fortgang. Easy style, how-to-process! Focus is on second career or what did you always want to do so you will be happy, but process can be reapplied to new retirement life situation (or even divorce) Lots of exercises done as answering questions, but good, insightful questions versus generic “how do you feel about this?”♥♥♥♥
Creating Your Best Life: The Ultimate Life List Guide by Caroline Adams Miller and Dr Michael Frisch – helpful in creating your “life list” beyond traditional bucket lists with “things to accomplish” or “ways to live” thinking.♥♥♥♥
Second-Act Careers: 50+ Ways to Profit from Your Passions During Semi-Retirement by Nancy Collamer. An in-depth look at part-time income stream possibilities with lots of resource connections (to get more information). Great for possibilities exploration. Second half on self-reflection not as good as other books, but there.♥♥♥♥
The Couple’s Retirement Puzzle: 10 Must-Have Conversations for Creating an Amazing New Life Together by Roberta K. Taylor and Dorian Mintzer. 3 star but is unique in that it talks about transitioning as a duo in life. Covers all the big domains.♥♥♥
Here is another highly recommended book by Ken Blanchard and Morton Shaevitz Refire! Don’t Retire: Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life reviewed by the website Retirement Wisdom. Blanchard is a well known best selling author on many management topics. I have booked a download from the Vancouver Public Library e-books. The Retirement Wisdom website also has a list of recommended retirement books.